How Do You Survive Singledom?
I've had a fair share. When iu was 12 i had the only boyfriend i really count, he was my first kiss and we were on and off for over 2 years. I never forgot him. But he would play with my feelings and was very insensative. He would slag me off behind my back and i'd find out and he would say really hurtful things about me. Since i've been out of his life (i moved schools last year) he's become a player and sleeps around.
This summer i got played around and lead on by a boy, and at first it was so perfect i felt like i was in love (i dont think i was) and i thought i must be in heaven but then he decided he didn't like me any more and never even told me or explained or said goodbye. I cried for days.
I'm fed up of having such a rubbish love life. Nobody i liked had liked me in sooooooooooo long now, how do i survive it?
How do avoid these things happening in the future?
Once you find out what really makes you happy, being single won't be such a big deal. It'll also be a lot easier to find someone who shares your interests (and trying new things is a great way to meet people).
You have a long life ahead of you of relationships - good and bad - so take it from me - enjoy what you have now and dont be worrying over things that really arent that important!
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i have found, if you go in search of love or something similar, you wont find what you are looking for, it is better to let love come to you and forget about anything that has happened to you in the past..... its gone and hopefully for your sake and sanity that it stays in the past !!
You could think of being single as an opportunity to have a look of what is out there and observe what is available. Think of it as having a break emotionally.
Stop expecting too much from people and just enjoy their company as long as it lasts, if the person is meant to be in love with you, he will be and will be with you through thick ad thin.
Wow you sound exactly like me 3 years ago, scary!
I was exactly like you wondering why i had no-one etc.
I had a boyfriend who i had been seeing for a year i had become very attached to him and one day just stopped calling, seeing me. I was devastated and kept trying to phone him because i thought that i 'loved' him and he was the only one for me, this was a big blow to my self-confidence and i wondered what i was doing wrong, i was too much of a pushover and too clingy.
All i ever really thought about was how to get someone to 'like' me again, i would not want to go with friends i would just stay in my room and dwell over how lonely i was.
When i would tell people how i felt they would say 'oh your so young you've got the rest of your life to think about boys' this just frustrated me even more.
Eventually i just got fed up of waiting and concentrated on friends and schoolwork.
I developed a life of my own and became independent and grew used to being single and hey even enjoyed it.
About a year later this ex of mine got back into contact with me saying he 'missed' me blah, blah.
I felt strong enough to tell him that i didn't need and i was better off and happier on my own.
I am now 18 and single, i am the happiest i have ever been, when a guys come on to me the majority of the time i turn them down i feel like i don't need a guy to make me happy.
When the right person comes along then great but now im having fun not being tied down!
I don't have to explain to anyone where i am or what i am doing, i have lovers but not boyfriends, i rely on my family and friends for emotional support, i think its safer that way.
The right person will come along I promise. Right now enjoy being young and single!
When I lost my husband, I became a widow, and decided to get me some fresh corn on the cob when in season, and I have never looked back.
leave your love life and try to become on the top but, boys will come and get you and things will be harder.
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